Friday, April 2, 2010

I wish I didn't say anything

He left in a huff, all he kept saying is "in my house". Since #1's little sister has been staying with us, #3 has not been permitted to come to the house. Maybe permitted is not the proper verbage but she has not come down and spent the weekend as she had in the past. He usually leaves on Saturday and they spend the weekend in a hotel. But all of a sudden not only is she coming to the house but she's coming Friday. So I have to deal with her being here literally for the whole weekend. When he confirmed that she was coming today I let my feelings go. I told him that I would have to be inconvenienced, and he didn't like that. I asked him what has changed she hasn't been allowed to come to the house now all of a sudden she's coming. He said he wish I would keep my mouth shut because I make everything worse. He said I was making him leave his house, his house. In a sense I know I'm wrong but I have to be uncomfortable in my house because of her visit. Is that fair to me, but I guess it doesn't matter because it's me. I asked him what has changed, why the change all of a sudden. I knew what the change was, the change was her texting him and telling him that some other alternative would have to be made because she could not deal with paying for a hotel room every weekend. The princess has spoken, so let it be done. So he is pissed off with me, he said "if you don't want her than tell her and lets be done with it. But you have to deal with the consequences ." It's bad because in a sense her presence makes me so depressed but then the thought that we may actually need her makes it hard for me to make my decision. I don't know it's like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.

1 comment:

  1. If you are a second wife, it seems a bit hypocritical to be upset at accepting a 3rd. I don't mean to be mean. I just started reading your blog and it might be a bit vague. I love my sister-wife dearly. The first five months were hard but after that we grew on eachother. I'd love to have her in my house now. Try to form a relationship with her even if it seems weird, because then she'll always be on your side when it comes to hubby;). It has worked for me.